Bullying at Moulton Primary School
At Moulton, the vast majority of the children behave well all of the time – this is shown by the high number of GOLD classes each week, of which we are all very proud. Children are usually considerate and caring towards each other and show a good understanding of our values which are underpinned by our Rainbow of Responsibility and our Golden Rules.
However, all schools have incidents of unkindness and bullying at times, and we are no exception, so it is helpful to share with parents how we respond to bullying.
When we learn of bullying incidents, we always take action to address them. This will involve discussing the problem with the child affected (the victim of bullying) and their parents. We will listen carefully to what children tell us as we want them to believe that adults care and can sort out their problems. Once we understand what has been happening, we can talk to the children responsible for the bullying, and their parents. Children need help to understand the impact of their behaviour on others. This part of their emotional development happens over time through adults talking to them about positive behaviours, and by them seeing this in the world around them. We also talk overtly about bullying in lessons and assemblies; what bullying is and how to deal with it.
Usually, taking prompt action sorts out the problem. However, occasionally further steps are required to tackle incidents of persistent bullying and, as stated in our Bullying Policy, it is sometimes necessary to issue more serious sanctions, which may include exclusion.
What is bullying?
Bullying is when someone intimidates or causes harm to another person on purpose and more than once. The victims of bullying can be verbally, physically or emotionally assaulted and are often threatened and made to feel frightened.
Bullying should not be viewed as an unfortunate but unavoidable part of school life. No child deserves to be bullied – it’s unacceptable behaviour and can have a devastating effect on the victim.
Bullying in school can include:
• verbal harassment – face to face, by phone, text or over the internet
• hitting, hair-pulling and kicking
• teasing and name-calling
• spreading rumours
• damaging possessions
• frightening and intimidation
• exclusion at playtime or from social events and networks
How can I tell if my child is being bullied?
Your child may not tell you that he or she is being bullied. However, you may notice some changes in his or her behaviour, including:
• unwillingness to go to school
• feeling unwell, often with a headache
• aggression towards you or others in your family
• waking in the night
• missing or damaged belongings
What should I do if my child is being bullied?
If you suspect your child is being bullied, don’t ignore it. Find a quiet time to talk to your child. Explain that bullying is unacceptable and that no one should have to put up with it. Promise to do all you can to stop it and start by speaking to your child’s class teacher.
Teachers will always respond to a request for a meeting as soon as is possible and parents can make an appointment by contacting the school reception or writing in the home-school book. At Moulton, all parental concerns are logged on a ‘blue form’ and a copy given to a member of the Senior Leadership Team to ensure that issues are responded to appropriately. However, if you are unhappy with the way an issue has been dealt with you should make an appointment to discuss this with the Headteacher.
Further information on this is available from the following websites:
What should I do if my child is a bully?
If you suspect your child is bullying another child or other children, don’t ignore it.
A child who is bullying others often has problems of his or her own. Try to understand what may be causing this behaviour and think about what is going on in your own home. Bullying can be subtle, so watch your child’s behaviour closely.
Consider the following:
• Is your child going through a difficult time?
• Does your child feel overlooked or overshadowed?
• Could your child be copying someone else’s behaviour – maybe an adult or older sibling at home?
• Do other members of your family use aggression or force to get what they want?
• Are you allowing your child to use aggression or force to get what they want from other people?
Make sure your child understands that bullying is unacceptable. Encourage your child to be friendly, understanding and kind to others. Try to bolster friendships by inviting other children over to your home but watch out for any signs of bullying.